In stopping conflict I think it always depends on the situation and type of conflict. But my personal opinion based on past experience is even if you stop conflict mid argument the individuals emotions towards each other will still be there. Not often do they say OK lets now talk about it calmly. In reality when you stop the conflict they will both just walk away with nothing resolved. Especially if you are the third party trying to mediate between the two individuals the STLC model seems practical to you but not necessarily to those involved. This opinion of course is just based on the conflicts I have experienced in life and never once have I seen a broken up conflict result in positivity.
Mostly the only conflict I experience with me involved is between me and my boyfriend. We never yell at each other but approach any conflict using the STLC model of stopping, thinking, listening, and communicating in order to avoid an escalation of conflict. I think this is model is a perfect way to communicate conflict.
Hi Xmas,
ReplyDeleteI can definitely see your view on stopping a conflict. It is true, sometimes when a conflict is stopped, and they don’t get to express their true feelings. Although I see your point, I on the other hand think that the S-TLC is a good system to use with any conflict. I think it is a good idea to stop, take a moment to walk away and gather your thoughts as well as cool down. This way, it prevents from the conflict getting physical and out of hand. It is great that you use the S-TLC system with your relationship I think it definitely keeps the relationship healthy.