Confrontation Avoidance Cycle

The topic I found most interesting this week was the Confrontation Avoidance Cycle. I found this interesting as it addresses the fact that we assume confrontation is negative or a bad thing when in fact our book states that, "the truth is that both excessive conflict and excessive harmony are abnormal." This obviously suggests a healthy balance between the two and implies some conflict is necessary in relationships and does not always result in negativity but yet a better understanding. My friend always tend to see conflict as a negative and so she doesn't necessarily try to avoid the problem, but rather she tries to  forget about it entirely. Neither of which are proper ways to handle conflict. She never truly forgets so the problem still lingers in the back of her mind and she builds up such anger towards a person that she eventually blows up on the person and verbally attacks them. We just use the excuse that she is temperamental but truthfully it is because she follows the confrontation avoidance cycle.  
              
                    *Cristina*