Saturday, February 11, 2012
The Relationship- Centered Orientation
After reading chapter 3, I found the Relationship-Centered Orientation most meaningful. The reason is because i have been involved in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now. As a result, we both have had to learn when to speak for one's interests, concerns and feelings. Through experience we have learned to stand up for our personal rights when we don't feel comfortable with the way the other is orienting the situation. I am satisfied with the outcome of conflicts when i act on this orientation. Since assertive communication is the middle ground between non assertiveness we both like to be listened to and taken seriously and being able to say no without feeling guilty. An argument in which both sides are respected and understood is the most practical type of conflict in my opinion and I see the relationship centered orientation form of conflict to be most practical. I do not necessarily see an exception to these rules but as I've spoken about before conflict erupts from emotions and sometimes people's emotions can get the best of them so it is understandable why some would not want to follow this particular orientation.
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I enjoyed reading your post- very much. We all have been in relationships and the relationship’s success depends on how you communicate. In an intimate relationship its success can be weighed more heavily due to the level of the relationship. Bad communication equals a bad relationship. In how you deal with yours in such a short period of time, can determine the future of your relationship. In the way you dissect and consider each other’s feels without compromising your values, and self-respect is highly appreciated. I have been with my boyfriend for almost four years, and if it were not for the same assertiveness used during conflict, we would have probably not survived. We are more in love with each other now than the first day we met and it can be contributed to how we dealt with conflict/resolution along the way.
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to give you props for making it work with your boyfriend! I have also been in a relationship a long time, so I understand what you mean in this post and how it feels. Good communication is key to good relationships!
DeleteThe relationship-centered orientation was also the one that stood out the most for me. I have also been with my boyfriend for a while now, a little over six years, and man can things get heated! We always try to stand for our own beliefs but also respect each other’s. It can get hard at times and leads to friction, but so far we have been able to manage our conflicts well. I agree with you that emotions can get the best out of us and that is why when we are mad or upset we should take a breather and calm down before trying to resolve any issues.
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